- do not give your daughter money to take your wife out for dinner
If you need to give something, genuinely give it from you NOT from behind one of your kids, make it simple, maybe a card and some flowers and a genuine "Happy Mother's Day", no dinner is necessary, this is a day for her and her kids, you don't need to make it about you.
and... - Your kids are old enough to take care of whatever they need to do for your wife on mother's day.
