No, it can't, but Ken can position this as "This is what I need. You, Wife, are free to do whatever you want to do -- you are an adult, after all, and I cannot control you. But make no mistake, whatever you decide will affect what I decide, going forward."
Puppy
I duno about the idea of telling your spouse they are free to do whatever they want.. if there are kids involved this is not that simple is it?
I get what you mean pup, but when communicating to a WS they can very easily misinterpret that sucker...
What I told my wife was this :
"You have commitments here. I need you to either respect them and participate in our household in a healthy way, or end those commitments formally and EXIT the premises"
That's not perfect, but I think it conveys a point that's less likley to be exploited.
I understand you want to focus on the LBS's harm, I get that, but I do worry that WS' will take that as a sign that the LBS doen'st want the marriage anymore and that the WS has no obligations or responsabilities.
