Does it matter that he was crying throughout the discussion? Or that he looked scared? I guess not.
Yes it matters. He obviously wants to have his cake and eat it too. He wants access to life as a family and he's been getting that, while getting the romance and excitement of OW too. Or maybe you're OW now, but there is some commitment to the OW. He is clearly ambivalent about the fact that he will not be able to have his cake and eat it too. Is there any hope for reconciliation? I'm no expert but I would guess yes. However that's not something you can count on at all. It seems like all the LBWs who have reconciled follow a journey of GAL, 180s, and reaching true detachment. You are doing great at GAL and 180s, and it sounds like you've made some progress on detachment...keep working towards that.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
