Hey kissak, you can find me on the alt under Mila...you will know it's me by the friends I have
BTW - I admire that you have found it in yourself to forgive this pathetic OW...I have forgiven my H, but I'm still working on the OW. I wonder if these women have any remorse for what they have done...if they did it would be easier to forgive.
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
I made friends with OW on FB before I knew she was OW. I have left her on there but am thinking of disconnecting her now... haven't made up my mind. It does make me upset when I see her posts, and pics... and it doesn't do me any good to think about her like this. Plus, H is still posting to her, but he keeps it private now so I can't see... like I can't figure that one out. At least he's not putting it on there publicly like before.
It's bad enough to see her on fb, never mind walking down the road, and have her in your H's face. UGH. I feel for you. You're one step down from H having gotten OW pregnant... having to see her frequently. Yuck. She sounds like she hasn't gotten to the point of acceptance if she thinks you two will be friends... pretty much what my H's OW thinks, saying to me on a fb post "I'm not your enemy" - well, I'd hate to think what you do to your enemies then, if I'm a "friend" - LOLOL.
Passenger...I can not even imagine what it would have been like if my H had gotten the OW pregnant....thats a thought Id rather not think about...
She is definitely messed up if she thinks I wanna be her friend....she was my H's friend on fb at one time but hasnt been for a while....Its bad enough I see her posts to some of my friends.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
Now that I know what marriage is all about, the way to read love lang. and all, he won't give me that chance. Of course he can't do anything until he forgives me for his pain. But you see, he NEVER told me he wasn't happy. He assumed after 13 yrs, i could read him. We were starting to build a house together, why would i have reason to believe that there were problems? He should have filled me in a couple of years ago. I could have worked at fixing my marriage then. That is why I am having a hard time. I feel like he wants me to feel the pain he must have felt all those years.
I am going back through some of your old threads to familiarize myself with what you went through back then. BOY, does this sound familiar. H never told me he was unhappy, and seems to want to punish me for hurting him.
Have you re-read some of your old posts? Not sure if you need to, think about it. Do you need to be reminded of what transpired, what you did that was wrong and what you did that was right?
I ask because I busted my D in 2005 after 2 years of H and OW - and then fell into many of the same patterns - lack of quality time spent with H being the biggest. I wonder if I would be here again if I had kept reminding myself of what happened in the past. Then again, if this is truly MLC, probably nothing I could have done... just a thought for you.
Thank you passenger for reminding me....actually I have been thinking alot lately about NOT falling back into the same patterns. I have found that its too easy to do the same things as before.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
I think I found you cagz//hope so anyway....someone directed me your way....I am a fan of db.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
