How can any one of us be a "sucker" for loving our spouse and trusting them, unless they make us a sucker?
I guess my sucker comment was more that I wasn't overly verbally affectionate or anything like that over the phone.
I think at one point my H did make me a sucker...He definitely took advantage of the fact that I loved him and he knew I'd stick around...it wasn't until I came on here and grew a backbone, that I was able to get some of that confidence back to stand on my own two feet and put my foot down that I wasn't going to allow him to mistaken my kindness for stupidity.
We should be able to turn it all the way up with our spouse knowing we are getting it back. The problem obviously arrives when we understand our spouse does not view us the same way we view them. Or that we are not as worthy of their time as they are of ours. People show it in their actions and should not need to be leveraged to act right. Acting right is simply doing right by people, including your spouse. I don't know why this is so difficult to people.
