Before us men become so tolerant, the OM might never be found, or he might have had his knees broken.
On the wife. An AIDS rumor or something like that or drugs. Or OM is doing anything related to drugs the appropriate parties are tipped off.
OM is doing something that he shouldnt be doing, and even raising the specter of doubt in certain area's will be enough to put enough heat on him that he stops doing some things.
