Last night before my H left for his softball game he said that he was going to take care of himself sexually unless I wanted to do something with him.
I think you should have looked at him, shook your head (as if in disgust) and say "Wow."
You know, if he keeps this up, maybe you should just call him on all the secretive behavior, once and for all, and say "(Husband), I'm sorry, but I just don't feel safe with you right now. Your secretive behavior makes me assume the worst, and my health is more important to me than a quick rush of good sex, or even hurting your feelings. If you'd like to unlock your phone RIGHT NOW, and show me all of your incoming and outgoing text messages, and agree to be completely transparent with me going forward, then maybe I can feel safe again."
And then just look at him. If he balks, say "I guess I have my answer. Good luck with your hand."
