reconciliation after divorce?

[Abbey]

Do they ever come out of "fry"?, Yeah, most do eventually. It's not without a big roller coaster ride for them to hit bottom at some point though.

As for her wanting to be friends, I'm not sure I totally agree with DDay, in that I think you have to set out some "recent" good memories before you shove them away, in order to let them live in a big dose of their own reality. It's that reality, unfortunately that you LC can't force.

Mine was hell bent on divorce, moving on with the tramp etc etc etc. Nothing I said, or would have said would have changed his mind. So my advice, change focus. Set up what YOU want her to "Remember" when her brain comes off fry. In other words, a non argumentative person etc. (There was a story about a man here who even helped his ex move into the new mans' home. He was determined to be that friend. I remembered that story when it came time for me to lay out my road map on how to deal with my H.) This fella who helped his ex move into the OM house, knew that that mess wouldn't last. What I took away from his story is that while DB has many principles, ... not everything is set in stone. Sometimes ya have to shuffle the deck a little to suit the sitch you find yourself in. Everyone has to plot out "the path", one figures the whole thing is going to go in the next 18 months, to 2 years and look at the whole potential on how to "play" out the sitch.

Abbey