No way the same year also? Maybe all the planets and stars were alligned that day which has somehow caused our marriages to be in trouble some 17 years later. Are you 41 also.
I agree with what you said about memories, pressure and expectations. You actually made it a lot clearer to me. So Thanks! It's good to get a reminder every now and then.
I tried to look up your sitch but can't really find an original one. So explain away...