WAW Using God II

[pigskin]

It is very sad, but ultimately it comes to you can do all you can do. In the end however, it takes both parties to "fix" the issues and rebuild or make new the relationship. Unfortunately more often than not what is "hard" for some becomes impossible in their minds. Hence the fog, for the WAS does not lift and give them the hope they need to perservere and fight for what is right.

I believe it is safe to say you have given a valiant effort and will be at peace with the results. I applaude your efforts and patience.

Thanks TGF. It has been a solo effort for the 13 months of my W's EA. She has never made an effort to quit what she herself has admitted is wrong. She said she has prayed for God to restore her love and our marriage, but she is looking for some hocus pocus magic wand to be waved to get her out of her mess. She's never in her heart wanted out, and God won't do a thing for you if you are not sincere.

We are pretty much living the life of a divorced couple anyway. While she is comfortable with infidelity, I am not, so in order to move on with my life I need to take the divorce/annulment step.

My W has become someone I would never marry, and I need to purge the evil from my life. I've been permissive of her behavior for too long now, letting the logistics of divorce and the difficulties of post-divorce life with children delay my actions. I find it unfortunate that I will spend the next two decades chained to her through child rearing and college, but that's just how it goes.