Can someone help me understand something? Since my wife got involved in the EA with DJ, and subsequently moved out, she often tries to mask her negative actions by sort of taking on this moral high ground about what's right or wrong when it comes to our kids, other peoples problems, or whatever.
MLC'ers will often try to "fix" someone or something else. They often look for something more broken than themselves to have as "project" . It is a way for them to be moral with out actually being moral. ( If that makes sense).
The focus that they place on their projects, is necessary for them to continue on their path of avoidance. It is part of the denial that they have within.
Fixing someone or something else will often take a priority over looking within, because they are NOT broken in any way if they are able to "fix" or control something or someone else.
It is a symptom of something deeper within the MLC mind than I want to explore.
I wouldn't view it as any kind of "breakthrough".....Just normal MLC blah blah blah....
If you listen though.....there will be moments of true clarity, mixed with some morals that will make your head spin.....
Most times, the true confusion will be heard through these conversations. Conflicts and double standards will shine through the MLC'ers words....
If you are careful, and can listen without talking ( or laughing at the skewed vision of reality) ....It CAN give you some really good insight into the twisted thinking ......
