((((Bobbi Jo)))). Lesson learned and let's move on. You can NOT count on him. He is proven that again and again. He has issues and he needs to deal with them. that is his problem and not yours.
So you need to tell the kids yourself. You hoped that things would work out differently but they didn't. I know it is a lot to carry, but you are the stable parent and you need to continue to be for your kids. No more letting Dan control the situation.
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Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory