Hello MR - I posted about this very issue and HeratsBlessing posted a reply for me - you are not in your own La La Land(thought I was though!!) - these 'children' are present and they represent 'stuck' time for our MLC spouse.

I have seen a 15 year old angry agressive teenager who has just lost his Mum (she died when he was 15) and a younger child maybe around 6 or so.

Even more reason to keep detached and validate but no R talks - teenagers work on hormones and high energy (from my distant memory)

Take care,

lalxx

Choose Life
Me: 45
Him: 44
S:11
D:8
Met in 1992
Married in 1995
Bomb drop September 30th 2009
Divorce final April 16th 2011
exH Marries OW June 17th 2011