Down The Divorce Road

[markhaving probs]

All,

I received a 'typed' letter from my stbxw saying we are DIVORCED and I need to move on.

The letter came about because even though I pay child maintenance, she is expecting me to pay towards trips, extra clothing and other things. I do not respond to any of her vile texts or condasending voice mails.

I would love to be able to contribute more towards my childrens welfare, but considering I am pay for expensive lawyers I cannot.

I question myself wondering if I am doing all that I can for my children. She decided to have a PA and then finish the marriage without any notion of reconcilling, she should have to bear the consequences of what her new life is like, but do I do it at the expense of my children?

Her letter went on about my shortcomings as a father, I agreed to the D, though at the time I signed the papers I thought we could resolve what she was divorcing me for - too much sport (once a week), and not enough emotional support.

These are excuses not reasons. I did not drink, commit adultery or gamble, yet she has tossed me aside like an old blouse she does not wear anymore.

She is now trying to make sure I do not end up with any decent settlement from the house sale for me and the children when I have them.

Can someone please explain why there is still so much anger towards me, when I have not done what she has?

I explained to her that if I did not have to pay for expensive lawyers, I could contribute