A cheating spouse, wanting to reconcile, ABSOLUTELY needs to be prepared to "prove a negative," Z. And Melody lays out perfectly how it needs to be conveyed.
Your IC is incorrect here.
Two partners, equals, with "clean slates," then yes, that's true. But once one spouse cheats, it is perfectly reasonable -- AND ENTIRELY NECESSARY -- for the betrayed spouse to insist upon transparency if the cheating spouse wants to return to the marriage to try and reconcile.
Doesn't a convicted felon, on parole, need to check in with his parole officer? Doesn't a child sex offender need to register with the state when he moves into a new neighborhood? Doesn't an NFL football player, having once failed a random drug test, need to submit to further screenings?
It's not "proving a negative," it is CONSEQUENCES for prior, poor behavior. Your IC couldn't be more wrong. Does he/she have any training in dealing with infidelity??
