Puppy, Does the same apply to a gender reverse in your opinion? That is, are left-behind wives just as open to esmasculation? Do men like a woman who knows her boundaries, sticks up for herself, and plays hard ball?
I think it's especially hard on men, but I think it's devastating both both sexes to sit idly by and wait for the cheating spouse to choose them.
No, men do not like weak, needy women. At least not emotionally healthy men!
Now, if a woman can convey a strong sense of "I've decided to stand for my marriage, and my patience isn't without its limits. I don't want a divorce, but nor am I going to allow you to disrespect me and our family by doing X, Y and Z," and then lays out some good strong boundaries for X, Y and Z, then I think the "standing" thing can be pulled off without conveying weakness. But in my estimation of studying these things, I'd say maybe 15-20% of women come across successfully this way, and the other 80-85% come off as weak doormats.
