The only way you messed up was not being dark, other than that I am sure YOU were not at fault
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H and I had a huge fight. I need the strength to go dark again. My habit is to "convince, explain, defend". When he won't listen. Help me stay dark, folks.
Read over your thread and look at it from a distance. Maybe it is easier for me to see. You are dark, things go well, you open up to your H and you get in a fight. It is a pattern you have been following for a while.
Now if you add in to this that your H is in the mix with a MLC, you should start to see why you have to stay Dark. To protect yourself and to let your H heal so that anytime you speak, it is not part of the problem.
You can stay dark, to protect yourself, your M and to help your H have his "space".
