"The kids in the middle of this are the real losers......"
Isn't that the sad truth..... :o(
I've read on here a lot of people make references to different 'personalities' that emerge from time to time in the mlc spouse. On occasion, with my wife I've seen instances where her personality makes a clear shift into someone who talks and acts like a teenager. If this really happens, and I'm not fooling myself into seeing something that's not there, could this child (lack of a better word) represent a time where my wife experienced something that she never was able to resolve on a psychological level? (i.e. her parents forbid her relationship with DJ when she was a teenager) Could my wife simply be looking for closure with that particular moment in her personal history? Is this what MLC is all about? Looking for closure, or perhaps trying to mature (psychologically) childhood issues that never got resolved?
When this teenage version of my wife comes out it sometimes seems like my wife is frozen in time, or maybe is a time traveller, and can't figure out who/where she is. When the teenager emerges she'll normally make specific references or statements that, to me, are clues to where her mind got stuck in time. For example, we have this hacky-sack type of toy that we bought for our son in China last year that sometimes seems to act as a trigger when my wife sees the toy. She's 40 now, but will start playing with the toy (nothing wrong with that I suppose), but, when she does, she will repeat stories along the lines of, "I used to be good at this. My world record is 24 kicks without dropping it." Then, those kind of statements usually seem to trigger other memories like, "I remember when my mom did this... One time, when I was in high school..." and so forth and so on... It's pretty eerie how she seems to replay in her mind the same memories over and over and over, and that this particular toy seems to act as a trigger for those memories.
Anyhow, it kinda leads me to believe that this whole EA nonsense with DJ may have something to do with her not ever being able to resolve the breakup on a psychological level. What are your all thoughts on this possibility?
