It rotten when everything comes at once.. same happened to me.I was saying to my C.This time last year had a lovely family, very successful career and money in bank.Now I am just pulling myself together.I took redundancy so looking to get back to work now, some interesting jobs have come up.So thats 1st priority.I am financially independent thank god have had nothing from H.
I think every signal these couples put out are a pure facade.They can never be happy after what they have done.I heard the other day from an ex family member she saw my H and ow with her D about 8 weeks post bomb drop in Pizza Hut, she said he didnt see her but they never once had a full conversation.He looked miserable.
My h saying to his one mate life never been better but H saying to youngest my life would be so much better if you and Sam were in it...They dont know left from right, right from wrong trust me.
She will see whats she's lost at some point but dont assume all is good..their great actors...meantime you have to eat and look after yourself.You want to look your best when she comes a chapping!She will, give it time..but you may not want her.
The way I am looking at it is you have to be in a space that you are strong enough to make the right decision.

My H txt me 8 weeks ago saying he would sign everything over in rtn for D..so I will joining you I think in D forum.I have heard nothing since..he doesnt want a D just trying to suss out space I am in..but a txt after 30 yr..since we were 14/15!
Insurance companies..just had my fill with payment protection..good luck

Last edited by JacT; 04/29/10 08:14 AM.
ME 44
H 45
D 14
D 20
M 22 YEARS
TOGETHER 28YEARS
Bomb Drop 14th July 09
Seperated-living with OW 10mths(14/07/09)
MLC 3years

Silence wasn't golden in this marriage; it was deadly," Dr. Robin L. Smith