I could have put on a big act about it not bothering me, but she sees through me anyway. Then she notices i am wearing my wedding ring again and makes a comment about it. " Why are you wearing your ring?"
She seems hurt, too. Why not try to slow things down instead of speeding off to a D? Look for opportunities to become a better spouse and open doors back into your lives instead of shutting them because you think she wants it.
If I had acted based only on how my W acted, ignorning the possible 'whys', I would've gotten nowhere. Instead, she and I are in IC and working toward hope. Imagine she's that student with a emotional disability code...you loved her in the past desite that code. Give her time to come back to you.
