I just don't know what to tell you, you have a different sitch than I did. My ex told me he wanted a d on Sept. 6th, our 15th wedding anniversary was Oct. 10th & he stayed in the same house with me after he told me, he just moved his things to the guest room & slept in there. (talk about hard)!!! Anyway, on our 15th, he wanted to talk about selling the house & getting a price & everything. I told him that I wasn't talking about anything that day, like d, selling, anything that he knew what day it was. He said yes, I told him I would like to have dinner with him, I said I could cook or whatever. He called me later in the day & asked if I wanted to go out to eat. So, we went out but of course, I knew about ow, he didn't know I knew, I couldn't eat much. We walked around the mall a little then home, it was weird, he was very distant. When we got home, I told him how much I had loved him & those were the best years. He told me then that he had really loved me too. He went to his room, our youngest dog would not go to bed until she saw him, so I just went to the door, knock but opened it without him saying come in, he claimed he was asleep, but I saw his phone lite up, he was texting that ow. He didn't know I saw it & I didn't tell him, it wasn't until the beginning of Nov. that he knew I knew about her. So, that really upset me that he was texting her on "our" day but of course, he wasn't thinking about it either.
Sorry, I didn't mean to go on about my deal but my h was in the same house with me, yours is not. If you are going to do this, wait until the end of the day & see if he contacts you first. Like Matt said, it is one of the hardest days & continues to be.
I'm sure others on here have better advice than me. You have to go with your gut. Thinking about you!!
