"My love language is pretty clear-acts of service."
I disagree.
Here is why...
"the other day he did a load of laundry that was all his clothes."
"My first thought was how selfish it was that he only washed his stuff!"
Acts.. will respond to even the smallest Act.
"Then I read about LL and saw that just because I think I am giving a gift by washing his clothes does not mean he feels like he is receiving a gift."
You further my thinking by stating that you did "his" laundry and he did not see the "Act".
Why did you do the laundry? Because you wanted to.. or because you wanted things "done"?
"This really does feel like speaking different languages."
You said..early on you were not communicating. When people stop communicating.. they will almost always try to control the situation. To a fault.
"I need to figure out how to give words of affirmation without sounding fake...any ideas?"
Honestly.. right now.. you need to define who you are. Cause from my point of view.. you have no idea who you are. The little changes you "see" are gonna bite you. I am being nice.. and I am not sure why. But.. there is a reason. You are getting better at your posts. You are starting to show up more. You had me concerned with your long delay there.
Why do you need things to be "done" to be happy?
Would your H think you are selfish?
How is the sex?
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
