Yes, the stakes being high makes this no fun. Decision making can be paralyzing. I don't have a lot of hobbies, to be honest. Nor do I have many friends in the area. I had quite a few friends when I wasn't married, but when we got pregnant we moved to my H's home area. Between working and taking care of our daughter, I haven't been able to put in the time to new friendships.
The people I work with are mostly family people (I teach at a Christian school) and so we're all social at work but then everyone goes home to his/her family. I wanted the same thing. . .
I do have some very close friends from before I was married - we're still like sisters and they've been a tremendous help over the phone through this. They live in other places so I think I am going to add some visits to them on weekends once I can get away.
I have been excercising and eating right (at least up until the last few days when I've had no appetite at all). So yeah, I do need to get some hobbies. And, I have to figure out a way to get babysitting coverage for my D so that I can GAL.
I'm on Day 2 of separation. A mutual friend (who has taken my side and decided to support our marriage) told me that he asked my H to get a beer tonoight and my H responded that he's out drinking with his coworkers. Great. He hasn't even called to talk to our D and my D (4 1/2) now realizes something is wrong - she had a meltdown at bedtime.
I am so angry with him right now that it's hard to force myself to be a bigger person and not go crazy. I want to turn off his credit cards, cancel his phone, etc. but then I know that if we do D this will not reflect well on me in terms of negotiations. Nor is it the right thing to do. Turn the other cheek, right?
