But I think you should tell them, unless it's too late when you get home. They are going to have a lot of questions after this, and telling them will help to answer them.
Yes - get your kids out of there. I still think he is being theatrical because he doesn't want to have to admit to the kids that he is the driving force behind the break up of this family. After everything he has done to you already, he really didn't need to add this to the list. So sorry (((BBJ))).
My .02----he is faking this "devestation" pure and simple. He does not want to deal with reality. Rather, he has a fake "Dan reality" that is better/easier for him to deal with.
Good luck getting the kiddos, I would tell them on your own. It will be best for you and for the kids, maybe not so good for Dan but that is HIS problem. HE caused and HE will have to deal with.
Sorry buddy, life has consequences.
In brighter news, the Cards are winning again tonight and I am going to the game tomorrow for another businessman's special!
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There was a rap song back in college, all I remember is "If you f*ck me, it's a must that I f*ck with you"...that is kind of how I am feeling which is not very Christian-counselor-ish, is it?
I feel totally bullsh!tted now...
I texted him I was on the way to get the kids. He replied back "They aren't there [house] and neither am I."
So I instantly was imagining one of those national news scenarios where he has taken them away somewhere...or I am going to meet him in some remote locale and we will have a standoff...he was acting that odd.
So by 8:45 he texts back, "We are at the house and now Sydney is crying"
So I fly over there by 8:50 which is when they should be going to bed. All are in the living room, Nathan has the Wii on and is acting fine, Sydney is on the couch and Dan standing there. I try to see if I notice remnants of crying jags (red puffy eyes, runny noses, etc) and I see none on any of them!?!?
Sydney starts giving me a whirlwind tour of the entire house and it's nine, I look at Dan with an "am I taking them" look and he shrugs no...so I get the kids into pajamas and into their beds and he comes in to read to them like he is fine?? So Sydney asks me to stay until they go to sleep and I agree...Nathan reads a story, Dan reads Sydney a Tinkerbell story then he starts reading them a 20 minute farm story from a chapter book...by then it is 9:35!!! And I don't get them to bed on time......
So I walk out to the living room with him and as soon as we are away from the kids I say, "Well you don't look too shook up" and turn to see he is, in fact, crying. He says, "Well, I sure was before and it's starting again now"...maybe I should have gotten the kids out of bed and taken them with me?
I just looked at him standing there with tears rolling down his face. I said, "Well, this was your decision, you made this choice." And I left.
Ugh Ugh Ugh. And I have a track meet again tomorrow night, I didn't work the last one as it got postponed. However I will leave by 7:30 regardless so I can get over there and tell the kids with or without him...I feel extremely manipulated.
He doesn't want to tell them. I don't know what he thinks, that he can wait til they are 20?
In some ways, I don't think the whole thing has been real for him until now. But that's not your problem, that I can see. He is mad at himself, but again, not your problem.
He is not a good man. He's not a man. I don't even have words for what he is.
