Yes, living in a whirlwhind of contradicting advice and information is so much fun when the stakes are so high - not. It can drive you crazy. What do you do for hobbies now? Anything you ever wanted to get into? Do you excercize and eat well? If you have already answered these things please excuse me. You really can only control your own behaviors. Once I started becoming more empowered, excercizing, getting back into Karate I had an epiphany that ...okay, he's just breaking up with me. His loss - I laughed a lot and felt like I did in high school. With all this said, I did a lot of reflection and work and realized my part in all of this. The book "the five love languages" was really the most powerful thing that happened for both of us. It opened our eyes to we were not just not compatible...we just did not know how to support each other in the manner that meant the most to us. That really started to turn things around...turns out he was still sleeping with his secretary through all that but that is another story. You come out of all this stuff wiser and stronger. It just really really really is very painful. Take good care of yourself because you can control that. If you are healthy, everything else will go much better no matter what.
