You've got to be kidding!!!! Come on Dan - you are supposed to be the adult here. This is pathetic. I am so sorry you are having to deal with this BBJ - he created the mess with his infidelity and lack of commitment to work on the marriage and now he is making you be the lone adult to clean it up.
I don't even know what to do. I wanted him to hit bottom but not in the local pizza hut with his kids. If he leaves the kids with me I seriously think he is capable of harming himself to avoid any of this............
(((((BobbiJo))))) Since the kids are with you tonight (right?), tell him to bring them over when they are done, and then tell them. If he won't, do it without him.
The kids are going to follow your lead, BobbiJo. Show them an adult.
I don't think he is hitting bottom - I think he is just continuing to try and maniuplate you. He's wants to try and move the focus off of the fact that he caused this, he's the one who left the marriage and now he's doesn't want to deal with the consequences. I don't know what you should do. If it was me I would be inclined to go and just pick my kids up and get them out of there. If in fact he is sitting there crying like a baby, you don't need to have Nathan and Sydney traumatized by that. Again - I am sorry he is putting you through this after everything else he has done.
I agree, ignore the hysterics. Give Dan a time and show up. Give no attention to the bad behavior...it's only there because you haven't responded. It's like a kid escalating his behavior because what's always worked in the past is no longer working.
Breathe!
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
Sorry, I am caving. He sent another text that he could not do it tonight, he needs me to come get them so he can settle down or his mom will come. I am not leaving the kids with him if he is that freaked out and I won't take a risk that he is faking or let MIL spin some story to them about how mommy made daddy sad....
So I am going to find my kids. I said I was on the way and he said they weren't at the house. so I don't know where I am going yet...
