If he starts a fight, maybe he can avoid telling the kids. Or, maybe he thinks he can make you feel as bad as he does because he knows he's the one who screwed up.

I agree that this is all about him...his kids think the world of him, and now maybe he thinks they'll think less of him too. It's a part of his victim mentality and speaks to his poor opinion of himself.

He's like a little kid who's been caught doing something naughty who then acts out and refuses to accept responsibility because they're embarrassed/afraid/trying to save face.

Just remember, it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with him. Don't own his crazy; lord knows we all have enough of our own crazy to deal with that we don't need to take on anyone else's.

SD

Me: 40
H: 43
H had EA from 2/06-9/06
Bomb 5/06
Piecing since 9/2006
3/2008: Boundary setting
7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb.
8/2010: Marriage finally on track!