That was my question. Get together to talk about what exactly?
This could be something, but on the other hand it could be nothing.
If nothing else, I think I can avoid this whole legal nightmare and get her back on track with a 50/50 custody agreement. When she asked me if I "hate it", she was referring to the legal stuff. When I asked back "you?", I was referring to my detached and distant stance toward her. So those are the topics to talk about. Whether we'll arrive at anything meaningful, who knows.
If she says she doesn't want us to be so distant from each other, my response is simple. She cheated on me, left me, took my kids half from me, and now is trying take them fully from me. How does she expect me to act? If she wants me back in her life, then obviously her involvement with OM and his country must stop completely and for good, and she must drop her lawsuit. That's for starters. As for what happens between her and me, that's harder, and I'm not sure what I want there. As BeingMe says, I really just need to listen to what she says.
I agree totally that a snails pace is best, and yes, I will be making decisions for ME.
