I understand completely. I am gathering intel at this point.

We are already separated, and she has gotten very depressed since she asked me for a D a couple of weeks ago. Very over-wraught about losing everything. I do fear that if I turn around and tell her I want a D due to the OM, that will give her the justification she is looking for....

H 51, W 46
no kids
T 22 years
M 17 years
ILBNILWY 2/10
1st D talk 6/10
partial recovery
W files D 5/11
long distance separation 8/11
moving forward on D 10/11
legal separation complete 1/2012