What about you? If the shoe was on the other foot she would be in equivilent amounts of pain. What many of these low drive spouses don't realize, is just by doing the act regularly, their drive will increase.
I agree, but anytime it was brought up she goes on the attack and is quite hurtfull. I am very gun shy right now with any physical contact with her, and I know that it is causeing problems as well. But some people do not think I should try anythnig until she starts to come around with a more stable relationship. My thinking is that the physical aspect is necessary to move forward. But I am not sure, which is why I am asking all of you fine folks. I really hurt from a lack of affection. But what do I do???
Allow the marriage counselor to bring these points out. Some of us find our wives are more frisky after drinking alcohol or other activities. Pay attention. Plus like gman says below, do some "free" stuff for her that will get you into physical contact. Back rubs, neck rubs, leg rubs, etc, etc.
