I never really got to this point before with him. Is there something else I should have said? I feel like I should have said more? I dunno.
Yah, I know that feeling. When I'm struggling with that question, my IC tells me to just take some quiet time, look deep inside your heart and think. If there's something bothering you, then that's what you should say. Don't worry about his reaction or how he'll take it. Just say it.
Just be sure to guard your heart THA. (Sandi said that to me once and it's so true). Be sure to lay down your boundaries with him. Again, look inside your heart and think about what you need to feel happy, fulfilled and be able to TRUST in him and this R. Whatever it is you come up with, those are your boundaries that need to be spoken. I think a good part of the value in saying them out loud to someone, is to allow you to hear yourself saying them... When you hear yourself expressing them, it brings you the courage you'll need to act in the event that they're crossed.
Regarding your suspicions about what him lying... oh my goodness this is out of my league. But THA, if there's one thing I've learned is that you MUST trust in yourself and your intuition on this. I'm very concerned for you about this. Please don't just sweep it under the rug...
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
