Plan out the things you'd need to get her and you in the mood. If she rejects - who cares?
O.T.M.T.,
This is much, MUCH more difficult for men than you can imagine, particularly if they've faced rejection multiple times in the past. "Just do it" may SOUND easy, but if you read MWD's "Sex-Starved Marriage," you will learn of the intense pain that high-drive spouses feel when their lower-drive spouses reject them repeatedly.
