WAW Using God II

[pigskin]

Once I settle on a lawyer, I'm debating on whether I should let my wife know, rather than her just getting the divorce papers out of the blue.

I'm considering sitting her down, telling her that I'm done, and that I have selected a lawyer. At least giving her the opportunity to get her own, and then us filing for a dissolution.

However I'm thinking getting divorce papers without warning might have more of an impact if there is still a possibility of her "waking up".

Either way, we more than likely would go the dissolution route (even if I file for "divorce" at first), as I know this is something she mentioned before and is afraid I will fight her in court. However I have no intention of extracting revenge in the divorce process; not going to cut off my nose to spite my face, and we also live in a no fault state. I don't think we would have a problem negotiating the terms of the dissolution.

I'd appreciate any opinions or personal experiences in this area to help me figure out a good way to go about this if/when I do.