Well Sandi2, As for the changes in the past, she admits that the problems that we have now are much different from the ones from the past. She ultimately feels that I have ruined her life and her life would have been much different if I had treated her better when we had our first child. Not only did she tell me that, but she also told me that I am only a small portion of the problem and that her parents treating her like a child is more of the issue. She still refuses to tell them that she has an apartment as if they will never find out. She has always resented her parents and the way they have treated her. When she found out that she was pregnant with our first child, they were more worried about there public perception than how there daughter was feeling and when we were separated the first time, they blamed her for the separation as opposed to listening to what she had to say because I was the reason behind the separation to begin with. However now we are separated again. The plan according to her is to get feelings back for me that she once had in the past. She currently has a 6 mos. lease and in my opinion she seems to be getting more comfortable in her new place even though it’s only been a week or 2. She says that she is trying to make it as comfortable as home to the kids as possible. We still continue to share the same bank accounts and credit cards. She has asked me to co-sign with her in getting her utilities in her name or she will have to pay a $300 deposit. I have told her on several occasions that it will be hard for us to finance paying for 2 location but she insist that we will be fine because she is getting a loan for school(which is ridiculous when we have a new home to furnish). I cannot for the life of me understand why she would rather be in such a small space rather than her home. According to my pastor, she says that she has peace of mind when she is in her own space. Also I previously ordered brand new bunk beds for my girls and when they arrive she wants me to put them in her apt. as opposed to putting them in the house where there is much more space. This is why I say that she is getting more comfortable living in her apt. as opposed to working on coming home. The kids are miserable staying in the apt. and she knows it. My son ask her daily when are they going home and she says that we are working on it? (What ever the hell that means)I know that there are things that I should not do for her, but I think about my 3 kids when I tell her no. Am I wrong for helping when the kids are concerned or do I need to back off?
