TimeHeals, What if words are being said, actions are being done, time is being wasted, buttons are being pushed, boundaries are broken and disregarded all with intent to cause you anger and pain?
Honestly, I don't know, but we're at risk of hijacking this thread.
At some point, you just have to worry about the things you can control (like your own actions). Detachment helps in that regard. In the 18th century, there was an Enlightenment concept called "disinterest". It didn't mean not being interested. It meant doing the right thing without putting your own interests and ego first. You can detatch like that.
Think of how you would react to somebody you don't know saying something crazy like "I don't love you, I never have, and I don't even like you". Your response would probably be something like, "OK, that's nice. I am going to go away from you now".
A stranger saying such things is absolutely meaningless, and that's kind of how I think of detachment. What the other says is not really about me at all.
Now, if a stranger says, "give me your wallet or I am going to shoot you with this gun in my hand", then that's another matter altogether.
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