HB, I'm so impressed with your son...23 buying his own place without any help from you...that's rare. He seems like a great kid, you must be so proud of him. You did a great job raising him. I hope that the changes in your household that you speak off are all positive....I look forward to seeing you back on the "boards" soon
Yes, he is a good kid; though no longer a "kid". After he graduated high school, he went to work as a precision machinist, has already gained a Certification as a Tool and Die maker; is currently in college again to earn his degree as a mechanical engineer, again, NO money comes from me or his dad; HE pays for his own education...on the financial end of it all, he's got his retirement account started, and has saved a great deal of money. Also, he worked on building his credit, and, taking lessons from me, has learned to handle money well.
He asked me at one point why I taught him one way, when sometimes his dad and I seem to go the other way...and I explained it this way: I looked at all the mistakes that had been made, and LEARNED from them, so I could teach him differently. It seems to have taken well with him...he's in much better financial shape than we were when we got married.
Don't get me wrong, he's not perfect, but is open minded enough to learn from any mistakes he makes...and that's a good combination. He will make someone a good husband one day, when he gets married.
The changes within the household are positive ones; I do not wish to hijack your thread with this story...depending upon what I see as the next few weeks go, I will most likely start a thread of my own with some details about what is going on, and what has been going on. As you know, my husband and I have been out of his crisis for nearly 8 years...this was something different that came up for us. I have gained a much better understanding on what has been happening, and need the time to sort it out.
I appreciate your kind words about our son...We are VERY proud of our son.
Later.
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
After he graduated high school, he went to work as a precision machinist, has already gained a Certification as a Tool and Die maker; is currently in college again to earn his degree as a mechanical engineer, again, NO money comes from me or his dad; HE pays for his own education...on the financial end of it all, he's got his retirement account started, and has saved a great deal of money.
