Lan, Good luck with your goals and milestones for getting in shape and whatever else is healthy and within your control for now.
(PS: I've continued to hear repeatedly from the pro-D folks that its better to D than to expose the children to conflict, even the passive kind as its bound to explode later. Then again I've heard from the pro-M, God-fearing folks that its better to have conflict than to D. I think either state is unhealthy for the children, let alone the spouses; its best to assertively resolve the conflict which is much easier said than done when one person is dysfunctional enough to make this next to impossible.)
"I think either state is unhealthy for the children, let alone the spouses; its best to assertively resolve the conflict which is much easier said than done when one person is dysfunctional enough to make this next to impossible.)"
What the above statement translates to, is with some of our situations, they are unstable because our partner wants it unstable. In the case of boundaries, the boundaries are constantly broken because the other partner is breaking them with intent to do so. Its why it can be next to impossible.
