Lan, Good luck with your goals and milestones for getting in shape and whatever else is healthy and within your control for now.
(PS: I've continued to hear repeatedly from the pro-D folks that its better to D than to expose the children to conflict, even the passive kind as its bound to explode later. Then again I've heard from the pro-M, God-fearing folks that its better to have conflict than to D. I think either state is unhealthy for the children, let alone the spouses; its best to assertively resolve the conflict which is much easier said than done when one person is dysfunctional enough to make this next to impossible.)
