Maybe I didn't blow it?

[james217]

I just need to suck it up and detach and move on, and I need to figure out how to do that fast.

I'm not saying give up, but I realized today that as long as im this unstable and emotional I am gonna do more harm than good.

I don't even think its about boundaries or anything at this point like that. What boundaries can I set? We live apart, our talks are calm, but its not like were moving towards getting back together at all with them, and when we spend time together we have a good time but nothing changes afterwards. She still doesnt wanna be with me.

I'm not saying I'm gonna blow this up, but I'm just done trying. I'm done trying to force anything. I can't force anything and I need to accept that and let it go.

yep that's why you take it one day at a time. Your M didn't get this way overnight so it's not going to be fixed overnight. You stated it's only been a week of you guys really talking again. You gotta be patient man. Th ere are alot of people on here who have been going through this alot longer than us. Love is patient. It says that in 1st corinthians 13

you set boundaries for yourself. that way you don't get yourself into a situation like this.

Cut the conversations short if you have to. go dark for a few days. Clear your head.

You'll be fine man.

[konfuseeed]

*sigh

I know.


Just a bad day.


I'll get another day tomorrow hopefully to try again.

I swear I smoked like 35 cigarettes today, and as badly as I wanted to come home and get drunk, I didn't.

Hooray... For me.

[james217]

Just checking on you today. How is it going. Have you made a decision about what u r going to do?

Its a new day dude.

What boundaries have you set

[konfuseeed]

Hey man, thanks, I'm alright.

I've just decided to calm the hell down and take a step back.

I think I'm finally getting it into my thick skull what everyone has been telling me all along.

It took a while, and I fought the reality of the situation for a while, but I'm getting it now.

[james217]

I rhink we are all hardheaded at first. We think we know our was and we feel guilty and hopeful and impatient thinking we can quickly fix our Ms. It takes time.
WAS are confusing and on the fence and they always think its too late for us to change but the majority of the time the LBS reallt truly doesn't have a clue to what is going on. They hold it inside and build resentment then explode and either physiscally mentally and emotionally check out on us or all 3.

Plus they don't see the other side and think that these things may be happening because of mistakes on both sides.

In the beginning its all about how they feel and if they never realize it takes two to make this work there may be little we can do until the fog lifts

[james217]

how r u doing dude

[james217]

Just seeing how r u doing. I hope things r looking up

[konfuseeed]

Going to the zoo tomorrow.


Wish me luck with that.

[james217]

Going to the zoo tomorrow.


Wish me luck with that.

what boudaries have you set for that? Just remember to keep it light and friendly. Have fun and gluck dude

[james217]

how did things go at the zoo? just checking on you