Further, you owe that to yourself to tell people when they hurt you.
I agree with one small modification: good communication skills would seem to demand that you tell people when they hurt your feelings, but...
you are not your feelings. You are a strong person, and you have feelings, and they can be hurt. It's ok to tell people when they hurt them too. But they aren't hurting you as a person (that is sort of like saying if they say mean things to you and you have hurt feelings you are hurt as a person, and thus less of a person). The fact that you have feelings and they can be hurt does not make you less of a person. Thank God you have feelings that can be hurt, or you'd be a sociopath!
What about a person who wants to know that for a fact they did hurt you? I would not tell these people or try to show it if I can avoid it.
