Wow! I had a friend that cut herself also, but she was mentally unstable. It sounds like you were just being part of the crowd, but it's just stuff like that, that happens years ago, never did it when you were with your H & now he says you are crazy! That's awful!
I know, from my ex's best friend, who by the way called me, said that their high school friends met her & did not like her. She made them feel like they were low life & everyone from that town was nothing, she put them down. He said he had never met anyone like her. That is why my ex's best friend won't have anything to do with him anymore, in fact he told her when he got rid of her they would be friends again. But that is what she wanted, get him away from his friends, that's what sociopaths do. His friend said he had never met anyone so mean & munipulitive, said she was crazy. Ex is in a mess for sure & it's only going to get worse!
Yes, reading those emails were very hard, but I got proof for my lawyer. I still have those emails but I never look at them, NEVER again!