Experience dictates that when someone starts accusing another of something there is usually guilt behind the accusations! So the fact that she is grilling you would indicate that she is trying to take the attention off of whatever she is doing...
While I am doing nothing wrong I do value my privacy in my email...but the fact remains that my H has my password and at any time he can look and see what is going on...the bottom line for me is I would be upset if I was NOT doing anything and he was constantly checking...he doesn't feel the need and isn't interested in my conversations between gf's and myself...but I am fairly certain if I started behaving like he did before he took the big dive he would not hesitate to find out what was going on...to me that is fair
So if you wife has nothing to hide she should not worry that you have her passwords...I am sure that reading her gf's mail is not on the top of your list anyways...but the truth is, if she gives you the passwords it is very easy to create another secret account...
I guess what I am getting at is if she is hiding something having passwords will not provide the answers to you...
Now as for FB...me personally, I would not have anyone of the opposite sex on my FB unless they were friends of BOTH me and my husband. I don't think there is a need to form friendships and communicate with someone that could be a potential threat to a marriage partner...I know many here think that it is okay to be friends...and that affairs can happen with mutual friends...but I just feel, personally, that having those types of friendships apart from my husband is only asking for trouble...there are enough couples we are friends with and gf's that I have...it isn't necessary for me to hang on to a male friend...
Again, my personal feelings...you don't have to agree but your FB with other women on it could be fueling her justification for her actions...
