I could totally relate to the emotions mentioned in that book but it hasn't been helping me move forward and put all this behind me. I gave up after the inner/outer child stuff started.

I too have idealized my W and M to how I prefer to to see it. Even knowing that when I thought of the faults of W I kinda pointed at myself for even her faults like maybe I did something and what she did wrong was simply a reaction to what I probably did.

I'm really glad you're getting something out of the book!! Maybe if you post your interpretation of it and how it relates to your situation I may start to understand and accept it better.

I think I need to find a IC - among the million other things I have to do - sigh!

Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6
Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks
Aug 2006, left again
Apr 2007, filed for divorce
Dec 2007, reunited
Mar 2010, moved out, filed again