I really wanted to do this without attys like he said to keep his tension levels down
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I know I shouldn't let myself get upset but I was in the bathroom at 3am last night with stomach issues as a result of all this and still felt like cr@p when the alarm went off this morning.
((((BUNNY)))))
Do you see how these two things above are mutually exclusive, and incompatible for you? You are suffering for the exclusive benefit of your STBX to NOT be suffering!
you are the only one important enough to you to change the rules here for you, and the outcome. Please consider doing what others have suggested, go dark, and get you L to do the talking.
I realize how tough this can be, but what is more important to you right now, saving some money, while you suffer, your physical health declines because of this, etc?
You can not control how your stbx will react, or what he will say or do, so take him out of your space by putting someone who will advocate for you in his space instead, namely, your L, and then you can focus on what is important for you right now.
Your health, your well being, your future, your children, and whatever else you deem is important to you right now!
I truly hope you feel better, bunny, we are hear to listen to you if you need it!
M: 41 STBXW: 41 D: 9 Bomb: 4/26/09
On board the D train now..
"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."
