Congratulations (I guess) for getting to this point.

Don't be surprised to fluctuate between this point and the "needing" your H back. Also be really honest with yourself and determine what is true in your statement and what is you stretching the truth to protect yourself. Often times we create a false person out of our spouses as a way to move forward. This isn't necessarily bad unless we us it as an excuse not to work on ourselves. I don't sense that is what your doing but be careful. Its a very normal thing. Shrinks refer to it as cognitive distortion.

So were do you go from here? Glad to see you are staying on the boards as we can all benefit from each others experiences. What are you going to take away from this experience? How will you use it in your own personal growth?

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Me-41
W-39
M-15 yrs T-17 yrs
D-12
S-9
S-8
B 5/08
S 1/09