W does not seem as depressed this morning. Is it because our MC helped, or because she is in touch with the OM? I suspect it is the OM. So, I am just supposed to be patient and hope this runs its course? Very hard to do. I want to be in touch with her, but I guess that makes me needy.
Very hard to ignore it when OM and W are in the same office that I am in. Tension is very very high.
H 51, W 46 no kids T 22 years M 17 years ILBNILWY 2/10 1st D talk 6/10 partial recovery W files D 5/11 long distance separation 8/11 moving forward on D 10/11 legal separation complete 1/2012
Aargh....had to go to a function with both W and OM. Watching him flaunt and preen is infuriating, but I am supposed to hold it together. She says they are 'just friends' even after their PM last fall.....
I am beginning to think that I should just basically end all contact and work on myself. Very hard with her vacillating....
Words of wisdom would be appreciated....
H 51, W 46 no kids T 22 years M 17 years ILBNILWY 2/10 1st D talk 6/10 partial recovery W files D 5/11 long distance separation 8/11 moving forward on D 10/11 legal separation complete 1/2012
although I would love to, not sure that a physical altercation is going to be me any good at all. Probably what they both want - another way to demonize me at this point
H 51, W 46 no kids T 22 years M 17 years ILBNILWY 2/10 1st D talk 6/10 partial recovery W files D 5/11 long distance separation 8/11 moving forward on D 10/11 legal separation complete 1/2012
Yeah. It would have been very easy for me to rip the face off of my H's tramp. Would it have won me anything in the long run? Nope. Another time, I almost drove to H's house (mine and his) and kicked in the door at 5 am. I got in the car and almost got into an accident with a deer. Went home instead.
You said it... don't give them a reason to demonize you.
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T:22, M:20 H:55 Me:45 H-OW PA: N/07 OW Jan08 Bomb:Feb/08 S: Apr/08 Back together Ap1/09-Sept/11 Oct, 2011, uncertain future/H is a mess. Dec/11 - Doin'friend mode. Some days are better than others.
I never gave (x)W nor OM the satisfaction of that desire. Especialy one time in particular when I was dropping off one of my boys and (x)W answered the door half dressed with OM looming behind her with a smug look on his face.
I just blew him a kiss and went on my merry little way.
EDIT - pissed them both off to end everytime they tried to egg it on, and I didn't even flinch. Don't know how I maintaned my cool, just did.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
So now I am told the W wants to "be able to work together and remain friends. I cannot endure tension and coldness". This is after she is in constant contact with OM. How am I supposed to respond?
H 51, W 46 no kids T 22 years M 17 years ILBNILWY 2/10 1st D talk 6/10 partial recovery W files D 5/11 long distance separation 8/11 moving forward on D 10/11 legal separation complete 1/2012
I got a "why can't I have you both, why can't you two get along?" question during the height of my H's nuttiness. *shakes head*
IT's interesting how the WAS tries to put their guilt off on you. Eg: the "tension and coldness" is YOUR fault, not anything she's done or doing.
Her brain is still on fry.
Abbey
T:22, M:20 H:55 Me:45 H-OW PA: N/07 OW Jan08 Bomb:Feb/08 S: Apr/08 Back together Ap1/09-Sept/11 Oct, 2011, uncertain future/H is a mess. Dec/11 - Doin'friend mode. Some days are better than others.
Very hard to ignore it when OM and W are in the same office that I am in. Tension is very very high.
Do you have proof they are having a affair? Do you all work for the same company?
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Yes, we all work for the same company. I have proof of EA, not PA at this point.
W is very depressed and confused. Leaning on the OM for support is my impression. His gameplan is far different.
Maybe I am just an idiot.
Abbey: Will her brain every get off "fry"
H 51, W 46 no kids T 22 years M 17 years ILBNILWY 2/10 1st D talk 6/10 partial recovery W files D 5/11 long distance separation 8/11 moving forward on D 10/11 legal separation complete 1/2012
