Sorry to hear this NL. Wish I had the answers for you. I know that this is hard for you and I think the biggest problem you have right now is that you are not ready to let go. I know that I was there a few months ago and only recently was able to detach and let her go and work full time on me.
Best of luck my friend!
Me48 WAW46 M24 yrs S24 D21 D19 EA disc 6/09 2nd EA Fall 09 I move out 11/12/09 W and I switch 1/14/10 D Filed 3/17/10 W moves in with OM 6/8/10 D Final 6/21/10