Yup, then you may have to ask her to leave UNTIL she ends her affair. You will have to check with your lawyer first to find out your legal position. You may have to modify your consequences. I am outlining the standard one the hardliners on this forum dish out under these circumstances.
You make the same confrontation script that everyone else here does
1. This family will not tolerate infidelity in this home 2. Your infidelity is hurting me, you, and our children 3. I love you want want to save our marriage 4. You are not welcome here with this family until you end your affair
Note : This is NOT throwing her out... you are forcing her to respect your home... STOP saying "throw her out" That is NOT what's going on here... SHE thinks that way...
Think of it as a time-out for a child... YOU won't call it throwing your child out, but THEY might...
STOP saying you are throwing her out.. you are commanding RESPECT for yourself and your family... that's all...
The difference here Ken is that your wife is welcome back at ANY TIME as long as an honest commitment to the marriage is offered and full transparency of her actions and communications until YOU are satisfied that the affair is OVER.
