Document the time she spends with Themselves. You have your records here of the important days she missed, the times you had them, the job you DIDN'T take because she wouldn't agree to working out supervision. Keep documenting, and don't say a word about it to her. *No way* a judge is going to agree to 50/50 if she's blown off their birthdays and has shown through her actions she's done more like 80/20.

Let the lawyer handle it all. Your STBXW is a loon.

SD

Me: 40
H: 43
H had EA from 2/06-9/06
Bomb 5/06
Piecing since 9/2006
3/2008: Boundary setting
7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb.
8/2010: Marriage finally on track!