Over the Shock and GALing 6

[Thinker]

Hi All,

Just a quick update for anyone still following:

It's been a long couple of months, but I'll keep it short and sweet. For 2 months after Christmas I did my best to be a stand-up-guy and support my wife as her mother continued to decline. It was a sad and stressfull time for all of us.

Mrs. T's mother passed away about 2 months ago. Within weeks after that, Mrs. T had started yet another A and asked for a D. It was completely predictable, and I was not at all surprised. It seems to be her pattern to respond to any unhappy time in her life by looking for a new man to make her happy.

I agreed to her request for a D wholeheartedly and with relief. I have been pressing forward with it ever since. We are now basically separated in house. We are alternating weekends and sharing responsibility for the the little thoughts during the week. Neither of us is wearing our rings or working on the M.

I'm done. I just want out.

I have been trying to take the best care of my kids I can and in parallel preparing for what I believe will be an ugly divorce. Our situation is relatively simple, but unfortunately reality clashes with the fantasies she has for her future. She wants to mediate, but has not shown any real ability to face reality with anything other than anger and blame. She's consulted with an expensive high end lawyer, and I've now done the same.

Our first mediation session is tomorrow.

I really appreciate the time I spent on these boards. The advice (2x4's) I got here helped me grow more that I would have imagined. Thank you all.

As much as I wanted to announce on these boards "divorce busted", it's not going to happen ... and I'm OK with that now. I did absolutely everything I could. I tried harder than I ever thought I could. It's time to move on with my life.